It is a lost dream in a place where divorce happens quite frequently. We believe we are strong enough to bare so much weight on our own shoulders. Can you believe in a context within society that says if you are an a**hole, you are more attractive. The nerve of people right ? When in reality the law of attraction pays off and you attract more people that bleeds the same a**holeishness as you. Some people I had a conversation with say that they are jealous of the people that they been together with since high school. I was one of those people who shared the same sentiment.
Can you imagine living up to sixty-years. Old in the face and grey in the hair ? Not knowing the true definition of love in a stable foundation. Only to be left alone old and sick, without no support. Of course, you do not want someone there for you just so your needs can be taken care of. You want someone there for you because they chose to fight through the storm with you. I want a significant other who is willing to walk on my battles with me. A friend and a confidant who I can lean on. Someone who I can slow down the outside world with, cause our world is filled with kindness and infection. Who wants to have something unstable in their life ? In the end I know where this will lead me. Down a road with no one who does not really care. People who are here just to use, not utilizing each others full potential in order to succeed for an ultimate goal consistent of; happiness, financial security, for an successful outcome beyond eons of my generation.
Over domination of the mind and lack of communication will ruin your relationship. Love should present comfort through conversation and acceptance. I once was a person that completely shut down the ideas expressed by a significant other. This is not a beautiful thing, it is not a joyous occasion shared by others. You are creating an uncomfortable situation between two lovers. Jolted on friction, causing a thought of having an affair in the back of their minds. Even worse, a tough break-up. You completely lose the spirit of your significant other to the point of no return. All respect has been lost at this point. You see the person you we’re so madly in love with as the most disgusting creature that can walk this planet.
Her: Babe, I want to go on a beautiful adventure across town. We need to go out and enjoy the scenery more.
Me: Sure, lets throw money across the town. Parading around like a peasent.
Her: Baby, where is this coming from….
Me: We need to pay our bills like real talk.
Her: We have not went out in over a decade. We have been studying so hard trying to reach higher points in life with our schooling and all. We both need to take time out and enjoy each other companies.
Me: I be better off taking my own advice.
Her: Falls asleep
At this point she is not in-tune to her lovers words. The voice that suppose to resonate with her soul giving off a dance with a strong desire is put on cinder by an icy approach. She is in a deep sleep, going off into her dreams of comfort. At this point, two lovers are not interacting and the dream that is shared is now in self-indulged comfort. The other person precedes to back-lash out of anger. Not knowing what steps to take next. Have you ever seen a person frustrations turn into laser sharp focus on their lover making instant targets. We have crying, name calling and even viscous assaults at each other in a control for power.
I believe you can be protected by ministering your significant other through the power of god. In that sense you can sacrifice the will of your own to see the bigger picture. Which in-deed will broaden the communication skills that both you guys can have. I can re-phrase this by saying let your pride down just for love too be build on the forefront of what potential happiness shared by two can hold.
You ever heard the term why settle for less ? Being in a relationship is great. You can build a home together. Start a family and give each other economic support and comfort. You guys do not even have to worry about the stresses of life. You found the perfect person. Someone who is willing to help mold and build you’r dreams. Then you found out they are not happy. This person wants to explore the world and feel something different. They want to see a change. They got tired of doing the same mundane everyday they wake up. A new experience is calling them. Tired of sharing the same things, they want to live life on the edge.
A person never got a chance for an experience of their lifetime. They still have not accomplished all their goals they been wanting to since high school. They feel an urge to do something different in their life. That is when you see wifey dressed up bout to hit the club everyday. That is when you bout to see the man that is the dream of your eyes get big purchases. You guys are in your early thirties already going through a midlife crisis.
When we are in our early twenties that is when you have to have the biggest adventures of your life. Why be happy with the person you are settling your life in with when there is different subsections to life you are willing to explore. You might miss out on certain life experiences if you choose to settle with this someone. Going through a harsh break up is not the end of the world people. It is a chance to re-define your soul so you can become a new person. Waiting to break out of the shell you was once in. Maybe that might make the relationship you was doing in the past; become stronger.